Girls are prone to low self esteem during their teenage years and this often causes them a lot of stress. It can be hard for a young girl to tackle her self esteem issues as it involves such a deep inner sense of poor self worth. However it is much easier for them to think in terms of stress relief and relaxing - which often leads to a change of self perception as a by-product!
It is always best to come up with your own personal stress relief routine as everyone is so individual in what works and what they like. However there are a few good places for most people to start.Understanding - The first step in personal stress relief is to know what stress really is and how it can affect your life. Try to take some time off to reflect on what situations in your life stress you out. You can start a diary and through writing down the daily events that get you going. This is particularly good for many teenage girls as they like the private journaling. Of course talking with a close friend or a family member about any issues is also a great way to deal with it.
Do give in to Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive social pressure that is placed on us in our culture. If you look at the TV, the news, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very similar pattern that is telling us that we must have a small butt and firm boobs or else we are unattractive. This whole social misunderstanding is so fundamentally wrong that I could write a whole book on it!
Creating a positive sense of self is as important to the teenage daughter as her reading the "Do not feed the lions" sign at the zoo. Disregarding either can result in losing very necessary parts of herself.How a girl evolves into her adolescent and teenage years with her self esteem intact can be defined as a tight rope walk at times. Self esteem building begins as a child and continues building upon itself one step at a time. If along the tight rope walk of self esteem she finds herself missing her steps, substantial falls and injury may occur.
When I was around 14 years old I got involved in my first serious relationship, I was treated like dirt, I was cheated on and lied to and never trusted a pretty woman I met ever since.When I reached 20 years old I realized that I was having negative responses to all women who I considered to be attractive! I realize that I pushed them away so hard because I thought they would potentially hurt my feelings just like what happened when I was 14 years old!
How absurd!I held onto a negative response to women for so long and didn't even realize because of my 'learned' responses in the past, every relationship I had up until that moment was ruined before it even began! This type of problem happens with both men and women. Whether abuse, shyness or fall-outs. If you are in a situation like this or if you ever run into this sort of problem, REALIZE, people are people just like you are and you cant judge a book by its cover. We are all born into this world and we'll all go out the same way! Just because the person you was with before treated you like dirt doesn't mean all men/women are the same.
Resist Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive massive social pressure that is placed on us in our western environment. If you look at tv, the media, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very congruent pattern that is telling us that we must have a small bum and firm breasts or else we are unattractive. This whole social misconception is so fundamentally flawed that I could write a whole book on it!
There is also the "Pollyanna mask". These masks keep everyone on the other side in a constant state of desiring to be more like miss perfect as she is always so sweet and kind. Pollyanna never makes mistakes and everything always seems to be going just right with her. In all actuality, she is oftentimes the sickest of all of us. Underneath her mask, she is far from perfect and keeping the persona of being so perfect prevents her from forming real relationships. Nobody ever truly knows who Pollyanna-miss perfect really is, not even herself.
The masks of the "over achiever", "workaholic", "cleanaholic", "committeeaholic", "schoolclubaholic" etc. are all very similar. These are the people who over commit and over involve themselves in things because the busier they are with their time, the less time they have to spend with themselves alone. These mask wearers hide behind their busyness to keep others focusing on their hard work and involvement in activities rather than on the deficiencies that lies within themselves. They may be trying to prove to everyone that they are worthy and can actually be someone that others perceive as important or smart. In their attempts to undo the wrongs of their past, they oftentimes work themselves into a state of an emotional breakdown. It is hard to wear the "everyone can count on me" mask and be all things to all people.
Surround yourself with supportive people - A big step to developing self confidence and any self improvement in life is to surround yourself in a supportive environment, filled with people who will be always be willing to encourage you. This may be your family, friends, co-workers, etc. Find people who love you for you and will be there to help you up whenever you are down. Confidence and self esteem cannot grow from an unreceptive environment, so make sure yours is supportive. If they have the opposite affect, get out of there or limit your time spend there as overtime it will have a negative affect on your self confidence, and be a cause of your low self esteem symptoms.I hope these self esteem activities for girls have been helpful to you.
It is always best to come up with your own personal stress relief routine as everyone is so individual in what works and what they like. However there are a few good places for most people to start.Understanding - The first step in personal stress relief is to know what stress really is and how it can affect your life. Try to take some time off to reflect on what situations in your life stress you out. You can start a diary and through writing down the daily events that get you going. This is particularly good for many teenage girls as they like the private journaling. Of course talking with a close friend or a family member about any issues is also a great way to deal with it.
Do give in to Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive social pressure that is placed on us in our culture. If you look at the TV, the news, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very similar pattern that is telling us that we must have a small butt and firm boobs or else we are unattractive. This whole social misunderstanding is so fundamentally wrong that I could write a whole book on it!
Creating a positive sense of self is as important to the teenage daughter as her reading the "Do not feed the lions" sign at the zoo. Disregarding either can result in losing very necessary parts of herself.How a girl evolves into her adolescent and teenage years with her self esteem intact can be defined as a tight rope walk at times. Self esteem building begins as a child and continues building upon itself one step at a time. If along the tight rope walk of self esteem she finds herself missing her steps, substantial falls and injury may occur.
When I was around 14 years old I got involved in my first serious relationship, I was treated like dirt, I was cheated on and lied to and never trusted a pretty woman I met ever since.When I reached 20 years old I realized that I was having negative responses to all women who I considered to be attractive! I realize that I pushed them away so hard because I thought they would potentially hurt my feelings just like what happened when I was 14 years old!
How absurd!I held onto a negative response to women for so long and didn't even realize because of my 'learned' responses in the past, every relationship I had up until that moment was ruined before it even began! This type of problem happens with both men and women. Whether abuse, shyness or fall-outs. If you are in a situation like this or if you ever run into this sort of problem, REALIZE, people are people just like you are and you cant judge a book by its cover. We are all born into this world and we'll all go out the same way! Just because the person you was with before treated you like dirt doesn't mean all men/women are the same.
Resist Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive massive social pressure that is placed on us in our western environment. If you look at tv, the media, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very congruent pattern that is telling us that we must have a small bum and firm breasts or else we are unattractive. This whole social misconception is so fundamentally flawed that I could write a whole book on it!
There is also the "Pollyanna mask". These masks keep everyone on the other side in a constant state of desiring to be more like miss perfect as she is always so sweet and kind. Pollyanna never makes mistakes and everything always seems to be going just right with her. In all actuality, she is oftentimes the sickest of all of us. Underneath her mask, she is far from perfect and keeping the persona of being so perfect prevents her from forming real relationships. Nobody ever truly knows who Pollyanna-miss perfect really is, not even herself.
The masks of the "over achiever", "workaholic", "cleanaholic", "committeeaholic", "schoolclubaholic" etc. are all very similar. These are the people who over commit and over involve themselves in things because the busier they are with their time, the less time they have to spend with themselves alone. These mask wearers hide behind their busyness to keep others focusing on their hard work and involvement in activities rather than on the deficiencies that lies within themselves. They may be trying to prove to everyone that they are worthy and can actually be someone that others perceive as important or smart. In their attempts to undo the wrongs of their past, they oftentimes work themselves into a state of an emotional breakdown. It is hard to wear the "everyone can count on me" mask and be all things to all people.
Surround yourself with supportive people - A big step to developing self confidence and any self improvement in life is to surround yourself in a supportive environment, filled with people who will be always be willing to encourage you. This may be your family, friends, co-workers, etc. Find people who love you for you and will be there to help you up whenever you are down. Confidence and self esteem cannot grow from an unreceptive environment, so make sure yours is supportive. If they have the opposite affect, get out of there or limit your time spend there as overtime it will have a negative affect on your self confidence, and be a cause of your low self esteem symptoms.I hope these self esteem activities for girls have been helpful to you.
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